I’m in my mid thirties and several years ago I made a discovery that the time I took to really stop and think about the things that made me happy and made me uniquely who I was actually made me feel stronger. This exercise has become like a band-aid for wounded self-esteem. In my mind, it made sense that in a world where you are always compared to someone else, this exercise can remind you that it’s OK just to be you.
Fast forward to this evening when I was a watching a show that featured psychologist Dr. Drew (Pinsky) and he actually validated this hypothesis when he said that “one of the goals of maturation is to develop a solid, cohesive identity, not one that is shifting around”. Boom!
It also makes sense that I would have started to pick up on this around the age of 30 and around “adulthood”. In my late 20s, I often got frustrated when compared with other women of the same age. But over time I’ve learned that I can often fight off the feelings of self doubt with these simple exercises to remind myself of things that “spark” and things that keep me excited about life.
Things That Spark 